Published inAbout Me Stories·PinnedMember-onlyAbout Me — Anggun BawiAn Indonesian girl from a small island called ‘West Borneo’ — Many people on Medium have known me as that ‘relationship writer’. In the previous company I worked for, one guy asked why I was obsessed with this whole dating and relationship stuff. What’s in it for me? What made me want to make my career revolve around it? I thought…Self4 min readSelf4 min read
Published inHeart Affairs·PinnedMember-onlyThe Ugly Truth About This New Dating Trend Called ‘Roaching’And some clear signs to see if you’re being roached. — Online dating can be messy. You could put so much effort only to get disappointed over and over again. Do you know that one guy you’ve been waiting for but never comes back after the first date? …Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read
Published inCurious·PinnedMember-onlyWhat Makes a Relationship Truly HealthyThose who think they can be in love forever with their partner are simply delusional. — My grandma and grandpa have the healthiest, long-lasting relationship I’ve ever known. For a long time, I was jealous. Back then, I couldn’t seem to attract someone with whom I could have a healthy relationship. It’s always full of drama. So I began to seek “relationship hacks” everywhere. I realized…Love4 min readLove4 min read
Published inHeart Affairs·PinnedMember-onlyThe Hard Truth About Online Dating No One Tells YouMany people quit because of this reality. — Dating online is easy, all you need is to swipe right, and that’s it, right? Well, if that’s the case, then many people would’ve been in a happy relationship right now. But the fact is, it’s so hard to even find people who want to have a proper conversation. The…This Happened To Me4 min readThis Happened To Me4 min read
Published inHello, Love·PinnedMember-onlyFive Things Women Sadly Give Up for a ManThese points will make you more aware if you’re in the right relationship. — Trying to keep a relationship isn’t always easy for women — some end up losing themselves in the way. From where I grew up here in Indonesia, women are taught to just sit there and receive. There’s no concept that they can choose or make a decision, especially in marriages. …Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read
Published inHeart Affairs·Updated Sep 2Member-onlyYou’re Not Broken — You Just Have Unresolved Childhood Traumas“Who are you to deserve love?” — Just like you, some days I just feel so broken. It’s like asking yourself, “Who are you to deserve love?” Many people with childhood traumas will agree that those past wounds can come back anytime. When it happens, you feel like this hopeless kid waiting for their parent to come…Love4 min readLove4 min read
Published inHello, Love·Sep 1Member-onlyThe “Boring” Books That Changed My Messy Relationship into a Healthy OneAnd I still come back to them every time I feel stuck. — Some dating and relationship books are just plain boring. They have interesting titles and promise you a lot but once you start reading, it sounds just like any other book. Same advice, same takeaways, same promise. I pick up lots of dating & relationship books but I’ve to admit that…Love4 min readLove4 min read
Published inHeart Affairs·Updated Aug 28Member-onlyNavigating Childhood Trauma in a Long-Term RelationshipYou aren’t all as broken as you think you are. — I don’t think many people understand what it feels like to grow up in a broken home family. It’s lonely, scary, and mostly frustrating. You have no one to rely on because you’re supposed to be “mature” before your age. There were times when I had to console my mother…Love4 min readLove4 min read
Published inGlobetrotters·Aug 17Member-onlyCome Hike with Me to the Most Popular Trail in British Columbia 🇨🇦But there’s a “catch”! and I wish I knew it earlier — Joffree Lakes has been on my list since 2019. Hands down it’s the most popular trail in British Columbia. It’s all over my Instagram page. Last week we finally made it. …Travel5 min readTravel5 min read
Published inHello, Love·Aug 17Member-onlyToo Hot to Handle’s Netflix Show Is Why People Normalize a “Situationship” in Modern DatingIt’s also the fastest way to get your heart broken — over and over again — “Let’s just chill, have sex, and be confused on the fact that we are not together but have official emotions for each other” — Urban Dictionary Imagine devoting yourself to making a relationship work — only to realize you’re the only one who wants it. …Love5 min readLove5 min read