Published inAbout Me Stories·PinnedMember-onlyAbout Me — Anggun BawiAn Indonesian girl from a small island called ‘West Borneo’ — Many people on Medium have known me as that ‘relationship writer’. In the previous company I worked for, one guy asked why I was obsessed with this whole dating and relationship stuff. What’s in it for me? What made me want to make my career revolve around it? I thought…Self4 min readSelf4 min read
Published inHeart Affairs·PinnedMember-onlyThe Ugly Truth About This New Dating Trend Called ‘Roaching’And some clear signs to see if you’re being roached. — Online dating can be messy. You could put so much effort only to get disappointed over and over again. Do you know that one guy you’ve been waiting for but never comes back after the first date? Yes, he’s ghosting you, and no, it doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough…Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read
Published inCurious·PinnedMember-onlyWhat Makes a Relationship Truly HealthyThose who think they can be in love forever with their partner are simply delusional. — My grandma and grandpa have the healthiest, long-lasting relationship I’ve ever known. For a long time, I was jealous. Back then, I couldn’t seem to attract someone with whom I could have a healthy relationship. It’s always full of drama. So I began to seek “relationship hacks” everywhere. I realized…Love4 min readLove4 min read
Published inHeart Affairs·PinnedMember-onlyThe Hard Truth About Online Dating No One Tells YouMany people quit because of this reality. — Dating online is easy, all you need is to swipe right, and that’s it, right? Well, if that’s the case, then many people would’ve been in a happy relationship right now. But the fact is, it’s so hard to even find people who want to have a proper conversation. The…This Happened To Me4 min readThis Happened To Me4 min read
Published inHello, Love·PinnedMember-onlyFive Things Women Sadly Give Up for a ManThese points will make you more aware if you’re in the right relationship. — Trying to keep a relationship isn’t always easy for women — some end up losing themselves in the way. From where I grew up here in Indonesia, women are taught to just sit there and receive. There’s no concept that they can choose or make a decision, especially in marriages. …Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read
Published inHello, Love·3 hours agoMember-onlyThis Is How You Make a Long-Distance Relationship WorkI compromised too much and lost myself on the way. — There’s this trend on TikTok where couples show their old photo together in one slide and their new photo in 2023 in the next slide with the caption “We made it”. It hit me since I, too, went through 7 years of long distance before getting married. When you see…Love4 min readLove4 min read
Published inHeart Affairs·Updated Nov 23Member-onlyThe Truth Behind The Endless Pursuit of Finding the “Perfect Match” on Dating AppsIt’s never as glamorous as it seems. — Have you been on dating apps lately? How’s your experience so far? Can’t find someone to have decent conversations with? I’m not surprised. The last time I used a dating app was in 2019 and it was already chaotic. My single friends who are still on it these days confirmed…Love5 min readLove5 min read
Published inHeart Affairs·Updated Nov 11Member-onlyThe Real Reasons Why Some Women Stay with Cheating MenSome people just don’t believe in divorce. — When I was 10, I found out my father was cheating with his co-worker. It was brutal. Although he passed away 19 years ago, I don’t think either my mother or myself has fully recovered from it. My whole life I’ve known some women who stayed with cheating men: my…Relationships5 min readRelationships5 min read
Published inHeart Affairs·Updated Nov 4Member-onlyThis Is How You Get over a Breakup You Didn’t See ComingThe unexpected goodbye. — “He broke up with me over text. Not even a damn call!” I was fuming while telling my friend about my very unexpected breakup. It was just last week that we looked into flights for me to visit him. We’ve been doing long-distance for over 3 years at that point…Love4 min readLove4 min read
Published inHeart Affairs·Updated Nov 1Member-onlyIt’s Not True Love — You’re Just LonelyMy grandfather thought he could remove his loneliness by remarried. — The biggest mistake many people make is this: they date someone they aren’t compatible with — only to make them less lonely. I hate to admit but I also made this mistake once. My first job after college was pretty boring. I mean, not that I hate teaching kids, I…Love5 min readLove5 min read